Bride Wants Her Future Mother-in-Law to Wear a Fabric She ‘Hates’ at Wedding. Her Fiancé's Sister Thinks She's Out of Line
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Bailey RichardsDecember 29, 2025 at 4:00 AM
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A woman asked her future mother-in-law to wear a satin dress at her wedding, and received backlash from her fiancé’s sister
The sister told her that “their mom hates satin and will be miserable all day," the bride-to-be shared in a Reddit post
Users on the platform said the bride's request was out of line, and criticized her behavior
A bride-to-be has ruffled some feathers over an unusual request for her soon-to-be in-laws — especially her future mother-in-law.
The young bride asked her fiancé’s mom to wear a fabric she “hates” to her wedding, upsetting some of her future in-laws in the process, and decided to share her side of things in a post on Reddit’s "Am I the A------” forum. The post gained traction on the platform, where users seemed to agree that the bride was being out of line.
In the post, the 21-year-old woman explained that she is getting married in February, and has spent the last year planning the ceremony. Among the planning was a unique request for her future mother-in-law. As a result, the woman said, “her future sister-in-law accused me of not considering my fiancé’s family throughout this process.”
Months earlier, the woman and her fiancé “decided that we liked a specific shade of blue and stretch satin material” from a bridal brand that she described as “relatively affordable.” The couple then decided to ask not only the bridesmaids, but also all of their moms, sisters and grandmas to pick their dress from the website in that exact shade and material.
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“We are being pretty specific about the material because even if you order the same color in a different material, it will look completely different,” the bride-to-be wrote. But people were not happy with the request.
While discussing wedding planning, the woman wrote, “my future sister-in-law accused me of being inconsiderate of my fiancé’s family.”
“She also said that their mom hates satin and will be miserable all day and I’m inconsiderate for not asking her (the mom) if she likes satin” prior to deciding on the fabric, the bride wrote, noting that she and her fiancé made the decision together.
The bride-to-be also noted in her post that she’s “tried my best to be mindful of their family so that we all have a great time.” She cited changing her wedding destination from overseas due to her future in-laws’ “legal status,” accommodating their “very large immediate family,” and working to include aspects of the ceremony in Spanish, which is their dominant language.
"So,” she concluded the post, “[am I the a------] for wanting my mother-in-law to wear a satin dress to the wedding and [having] been inconsiderate of my fiancés family during my wedding planning process?”
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Most users who responded to her post agreed that she is, in fact, in the wrong — and out of line — and defended her future mother-in-law.
Several pointed out that her request is “not customary,” and argued that satin is not a preferred fabric for many people due to both its fit and the fact that it can be uncomfortable to wear. One user even wrote that they looked at the dresses from the company the bride selected, and argued that “there is not one single dress that is appropriate for a middle-aged woman.”
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The user with the top-voted response wrote, “People are considered guests for the wedding, not props for the color matching. Unless it’s silk, satin is pretty uncomfortable, and expecting people to shell out money for something they’ve no choice in is not appropriate.” Another agreed, arguing that the bride’s future mother-in-law “is not a prop to make your wedding look a certain way.”
“She's not a bridesmaid and should not be dictated to on what to wear,” another user echoed, suggesting the bride “provide a swatch and the mother of the groom should be free to buy her dress wherever she wants and wear what is comfy.”
"You care more about your vision over her comfort,” the same user wrote, adding that the mother-in-law “doesn't need you dictating the fabric she puts on [her] body.”
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